a good marriage: more mundane and more glorious; less romanticized and less toil

From Anthony Esolen in Touchstone...

...there are twin errors to avoid in talking about marriage...One is to suppose that all your emotional longings are going to be fulfilled...once you walk down that aisle...The other is to suppose that marriage is tough, involves hard, hard work, backbreaking, grueling, awful, but such a payoff...The truth I think is elsewhere, and is much more mundane and much more glorious at the same time.